Telling your story better.

I set out to write a post contrasting “telling a better story” with “telling your story better.” I was going to suggest that sometimes, the story that our life is telling doesn’t need a new “where” or “project” or “calling”. Sometimes we need to take the story we are telling and try again. We may want to change jobs, but what we need is to change how we are doing our current job, or how we are living in relationship to our job.Maybe we need to just try again with the family we have rather than wishing we had a different family.

I was going to write that post. I’ve been thinking about it all weekend.

And then I realized that I already wrote it.

So here it is (from last August) and I’m sorry that we are so far over 300 words today:

In praise of staying put.

I love Don Miller. He inspires and challenges me (even when we don’t agree).

Of course, that makes it sound like we’ve talked. We haven’t. I’ve read.

The other day, I was thinking about interviewing hm, about questions I would ask him if I had the opportunity. I was thinking about the new things he talked about doing in A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: What I Learned While Editing My Life. I was thinking in particular about asking him what he learned from starting a nonprofit.

And then I wondered what would someone learn from not starting something new?

I’m not arguing with Don. Not at all. The point of his book is that it’s worthwhile to look at the story your life is telling. If you don’t like that story, start rewriting it.

What is easy to do when reading that is to think it necessary to make some huge change. Ride a bike across the country. Start a new organization for mentoring kids. Learn about story. Write a book.

But what if  rewriting your story means staying put? What if it means learning to love more carefully and thoughtfully the people you already love? What if it means learning that the opposite of complacent may not be ambitious or accomplished, it may be content? What if it meant that the opposite of mere busy-ness may not be focused activity, it may be stillness. What if rather than starting a new project or business or campaign, maybe it means finishing the old one well?

In writing to his apprentice Timothy, Paul reviews what can happen when people get consumed and then says, “But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness.” (1 Timothy 6:11).

Sometimes pursuing happens by faithfully staying.

(That link to the book is an affiliate link. I stand to gain a bit if you buy the book through that link. But, of course, you gain more. I did.)

2 thoughts on “Telling your story better.

  1. Michele's avatar

    Michele

    I love this post. We are all so busy trying to find the something new or better when it is right with us all along. We need to look at what we have an embrace it, not look to things we don’t, in the end we do find that we have the best treasure ever right under our feet.

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  2. Diane Brogan's avatar

    Diane Brogan

    I am just reading this post, many days after it was written. Your words have great meaning to me today. Thankfully the message stays the same. Thank you for being present in my life.

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