We’re struggling with some serious illness in our extended family. Hope was talking about it with a friend the other day. “It will be okay,” he said. “No it won’t,” she said. People will die. In the process they will hurt. Their minds will not work right. And other people will get hurt.
That’s why I loved the proverb I read the other day.
Like one who takes away a garment on a cold day, or like vinegar poured on a wound, is one who sings songs to a heavy heart. Proverbs 25:20
Nancy read it, too, and we talked about it while we walked. Before you start singing that really happy song of faith really loud, consider the audience. They may not just have a bad mood. Headache? Death in the family? Struggling with chronic pain? Uncertain about the future? Consider, for a moment, that your cheerfulness might be like acid in a cut.
There are other ways to encourage. Listen. Pray. Do some research to understand depression or dementia or chemo. Pray. Sing the songs to your own heart.
Do I trust in God? Absolutely. Enough to understand that in the short run, many things will not be okay. And, ironically, I’m okay with that.
Joanna Paterson (@joannapaterson)
I think this is the essence of chaplaincy – to be able to sit with the pain of others. Thank you.
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Jon Swanson
thank you Joanna.
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Joseph Ruiz (@SMSJOE)
Yes it is being mature enough and aware enough to have empathy not sympathy or worse cliches praying for your family Jon
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Jon Swanson
thanks for the prayer, Joe
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Rich Dixon
We had this conversation last night. I said worship doesn’t have to mean happy and sort of got shut down. I think God wants me to be real, and sometimes that means being real sad or real angry.
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Jon Swanson
Rich, that’s certainly evident in Elijah, Moses, David, and Abraham.
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