So I have to love him? Part two

Yesterday, we talked a bit about a large family-owed business and how to deal lovingly with a brother who is being kind of obnoxious.

Here are a couple more things to consider:

3. You don’t merge with the other companies as a way of resolving the situation

In any marketplace, companies have distinctives. These distinctives, whether about how a product is made or what ingredients are included or what kind of answer this is, are part of what makes the company. Though both are beverages, Coke is not Pepsi. Though both are transportation, a car is not a bicycle.

This principle is true in the marketplace of ideas and the marketplace of faith as well. To respond to your obnoxious sibling by going to the competitor he’s attacking and saying, “Hey, I’m sorry. You and us? We’re just the same” doesn’t fool your competitor. It merely means that you aren’t clear about your own company.

4. More than ever, you make sure that you understand the business principles of your dad.

It’s interesting how often we think we understand something we heard in a lecture until we try to apply it when we are doing our homework … or when we are watching a life wither in front of us.

For example, what if your oldest brother says,

“If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over.”

That raises difficult questions. What does that mean if you haven’t ever met him? What does that mean if he’s using social media? Why is it my responsibility to do anything other that critiquing him?

Answering those is a lot of thinking, a lot of conversation.

I agree.

But isn’t living the point of the business?

2 thoughts on “So I have to love him? Part two

  1. Frank Reed

    The human element in anything – business, organizations, ministries you name – is the wild card always. In social media people talk about treating people well etc etc but it is always about getting their business eventually. As a result, these efforts ring hollow to those that are really paying attention (which is probably a pretty small percentage mind you).

    We are conditioned to appease which often allows destructive behaviors (both ours and others) to continue to thrive in the name of “keeping the peace”. We all should be more concerned with keeping the truth but in this world of relativism agreeing on that can be an even greater issue.

    That’s why Christians struggle mightily in the ‘real’ world because our truth is non-negotiable and that is anathema in this world. There is no effort by the other side to understand this one because we have been labeled narrow minded and intolerant which sure is an interesting way to approach potential clients isn’t it?

    Anyway, as always Jon you make me think but I wonder if my ramblings here add to the conversation or the confusion.

    Take care.


    1. Jon Swanson

      but you know, Frank, part of the struggle is that many of those who follow Jesus don’t think about the implications of their application of what he says. We pick the parts of truth that are easy for us and skip the parts that challenge us to change us. And we almost never systematically talk about good news and healing and the poor. Instead, we talk about getting rich and being good.

      And you make me think, too.


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