I sent words from Proverbs to a friend.
Humans are satisfied with whatever looks good;
God probes for what is good.
Put God in charge of your work,
then what you’ve planned will take place.
My friend said, “But how?”
Here’s part of what I said:
We create plans all the time, plans that don’t work.
They don’t work because they center around us and our own view of reality. They run aground because other people exist. We cannot control other people. (We can barely control ourselves).
You make a plan. Your spouse exists. And her very uttering of anything can affect whether that plan happens.
We think, “If only I could have a bigger view, process more variables, be able to read people better, talk better, explain better.”
Then we think, “What if someone could see the interplay of everyone. See the end from the beginning. Suggest which path might be better, which way of living might be best.”
And God, assuming that he is who he says he is, is that someone.
But with God, the starting point isn’t that I plan and then say, “Hey God. Make this work.” Or even “Please please please make this work and I’ll be indebted to you forever.”
The starting point is, “So, God, you know where you want me to end up. Even better, HOW you want me to end up. You know the kind of person that you want me to be so that, at the end, I’m more like you. Today I need your direction. About this decision, I need your direction. More importantly, I need to know the values you are using, God, so that I use those as my values so that I end up with the choices you’d make.”
And then never say “amen.”