Yesterday was kind of a warning post, an “are we thinking about what we are doing and saying?” post. But I wanted to remind us that many of us are saying well of people, are doing well by people. In our concern to get things right, a concern that is causing undue stress on untold many, there is a place for saying, “You are getting that right. Keep doing it!”
Paul says to one of the churches, “Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing.” I have several friends who encourage each other and others, who build up each other and others.
In a time when we feel bad for what we don’t do, there is value in recognizing the value of what we are doing. And to tell others what and that they are doing well, that you are proud of them, that you care about them, that you love them.
We can build each other up. We are building each other up.
Yes, I mean you. You are already doing this.
My friend Andy responded to yesterday’s post with words adopted from the poem, “A Choice of Weapons” by Phyllis McGinley:
Sticks and stones are hard on bones,
Aimed with angry art.
Words can sting like anything,
But silence breaks the heart.
Another friend told me that her friend called her in a difficult time and said, “I don’t have words to help right now, words to comfort. I’ll call you back when I do. But I wanted to call you now.”
That’s what to do when you don’t know what to say.
A couple of public service announcements:
Thanksgiving Day in the US is two weeks from tomorrow.
The first Sunday of Advent, and the first day of my advent book, Saint John of the Mall, is December 1. It’s coming soon.