“Do you have any suggestions for Bible studies for couples?”

That was a question this week from a friend. She has a friend whose parents just divorced. It scared her friend. Her friend wants to start some kind of Bible study with her husband, to strengthen the marriage.

I never know how to answer those questions. I’m not good at “Here’s a book of devotionals for couples.” I’m also not good at “Here’s a book of devotionals.” I wouldn’t be writing them myself.

That said, here’s what I said.

1. Have them read a solid daily book like My Utmost for His Highest (and online). Read it separately. Then, when they are casting about for conversation about something other than the kids and teething and school and bills, talk about the crazy thing that Chambers wrote and how would you ever put that into practice.

2. Have them just read the Bible wherever they want individually in areas that fit their personalities. One might be more poetic, so read some of the psalms. The other might be more story-driven and read through 1 and 2 Samuel. Then spend 5 minutes a day listening to each other talk about what has been cool about what was read recently. Because the reading matches personality, the observations may give insights into the spouse.

3. Have them read the Bible texts that were part of the previous week’s sermon. Or the text for the week in the lectionary. And then try to remember what the pastor said.

4. Take turns learning parables and telling them to the kids. One per week.

5. Without even talking to each other, talk to God about each other. Say, “God, you know what’s going on that my spouse is afraid to tell even me. Give me words that will encourage. Help me read what will help.”